Helping a loved one with (OCD)

If your friend or family member has OCD, your most important job is to educate yourself about the disorder. Learn everything you can about the disorder and make sure your loved one has access to information about it as well. 

Share what you’ve learned with your friend or family member and let them know there is help available. Simply knowing the condition is treatable may provide enough motivation to get them into a therapist’s office.

How to Relate to Your Family Member with OCD

• View your relative’s obsessive-compulsive behaviors as symptoms, not character flaws. Remember that your relative is a person with a disorder, but who is healthy and able in many other ways. Focus on the whole person.
• Do not allow OCD to take over family life. As much as possible, keep stress low and family life normal.
• Do not participate in your relative’s rituals. If you have helped with rituals in the past, it may take time and practice to change this pattern. In order for people with OCD to make progress, family and friends must resist helping with ritual behaviors. Supporting the rituals, including reassurance rituals, hinders progress.
• Communicate positively, directly and clearly. State what you want to happen, rather than criticizing your relative for past behaviors. Avoiding personal criticism can help your relative feel accepted while he or she is making difficult changes.
• Mix humor with caring. Support doesn’t always have to be serious. People with OCD know how absurd their fears are. They can often see the funny side of their symptoms, as long as the humor does not feel disrespectful. Family members say that humor can often help their relative become more detached from symptoms.

The way you react to your loved one’s OCD symptoms has a big impact. Negative comments or criticism can make OCD worse, while a calm, supportive environment can help improve the outcome of treatment. 

There’s no point in scolding someone with OCD or telling the person to stop performing rituals. They can’t comply, and the pressure to stop will only make the behaviors worse. 

The best way to help a loved one cope with OCD is to be as kind and patient as possible. Praise any successful attempt to resist OCD, and focus attention on positive elements in the person’s life.

Source: Centre for Addiction and Mental Health

Self Help for OCD

If you have obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), you can help yourself in many ways. Educating yourself about the disorder is a vital first step. It’s also important to practice the cognitive-behavioral techniques you’ve learned from therapy on your own. Renowned OCD researcher Jeffrey Schwartz emphasizes the importance of self-treatment on a day-to-day basis. 

Dealing with and obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors:

• Educate yourself. Learn everything you can about OCD. Read books on the disorder and talk to your therapist and doctor. The more you know, the better able you will be to manage your symptoms. You can find many books about OCD at local or online bookstores. 
• Practice the skills you’ve learned in therapy. Using the skills you’ve learned in therapy, actively work toward eliminating your obsessions and compulsive behaviors. This is a challenge that requires commitment and daily practice.
• Stay connected to family and friends. Obsessions and compulsions can consume your life to the point of social isolation. In turn, social isolation can aggravate your OCD. It’s important to have a network of family and friends you can turn to for help and support. Involving others in your treatment can help guard against setbacks and keep you motivated.
• Join an OCD support group. You’re not alone in your struggle with OCD, and participating in a support group is an effective reminder of that. In a support group, you can share your experience and learn from others who are going through the same thing you are. Click here to search the Obsessive Compulsive Foundation’s support group database.
• Practice relaxation techniques. Meditation, yoga, deep breathing, and other stress relief techniques may help reduce the symptoms of anxiety brought on by OCD. Mindfulness meditation may be particularly helpful to OCD sufferers.

To learn more about how relaxation techniques may help the symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder 

 (OCD), 

see Stress Relief: Yoga, Meditation, and Other Relaxation Techniques

Source: Westwood Institute for Anxiety Disorders

Signs and symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder

Most people with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) have both obsessions and compulsions, but some people experience just one or the other. The symptoms of OCD may wax and wane over time. Often, the symptoms get worse in times of stress.

Common obsessive thoughts in OCD include:

• Fear of being contaminated by germs or dirt or contaminating others
• Fear of causing harm to yourself or others
• Intrusive sexually explicit or violent thoughts and images
• Excessive focus on religious or moral ideas
• Fear of losing or not having things you might need
• Order and symmetry: the idea that everything must line up “just right.”
• Superstitions; excessive attention to something considered lucky or unlucky

Common compulsive behaviors in OCD include:

• Excessive double-checking of things, such as locks, appliances, and switches.
• Repeatedly checking in on loved ones to make sure they’re safe.
• Counting, tapping, repeating certain words, or doing other senseless things to reduce anxiety.
• Spending a lot of time washing or cleaning.
• Ordering, evening out, or arranging things “just so.”
• Praying excessively or engaging in rituals triggered by religious fear.
• Accumulating “junk” such as old newspapers, magazines, and empty food containers, or other things you don’t have a use for.

Four Steps for Conquering Obsessive Thoughts and Compulsive Urges

Psychiatrist Jeffrey Schwartz, author of Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior, offers the following four steps for dealing with OCD:

1. RELABEL – Recognize that the intrusive obsessive thoughts and urges are the result of OCD.
2. REATTRIBUTE – Realize that the intensity and intrusiveness of the thought or urge is caused by OCD; it is probably related to a biochemical imbalance in the brain.
3. REFOCUS – Work around the OCD thoughts by focusing your attention on something else, at least for a few minutes. Do another behavior.
4. REVALUE – Do not take the OCD thought at face value. It is not significant in itself.

Source: Westwood Institute for Anxiety Disorders

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder characterized by uncontrollable, unwanted thoughts and repetitive, ritualized behaviors you feel compelled to perform. If you have OCD, you probably recognize that your obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors are irrational – but even so, you feel unable to resist them and break free.

Understanding obsessions and compulsions

Obsessions are involuntary, seemingly uncontrollable thoughts, images, or impulses that occur over and over again in your mind. You don’t want to have these ideas – in fact, you know that they don’t make any sense. But you can’t stop them. Unfortunately, these obsessive thoughts are usually disturbing and distracting.

Compulsions are behaviors or rituals that you feel driven to act out again and again. Usually, compulsions are performed in an attempt to make obsessions go away. For example, if you’re afraid of contamination, you might develop elaborate cleaning rituals. 

However, the relief never lasts. In fact, the obsessive thoughts usually come back stronger. And the compulsive behaviors often end up causing anxiety themselves as they become more demanding and time-consuming. Most people with obsessive-compulsive disorder fall into one of the following categories:

• Washers are afraid of contamination. They usually have cleaning or hand-washing compulsions.
• Checkers repeatedly check things (oven turned off, door locked, etc.) that they associate with harm or danger.
• Doubters and sinners are afraid that if everything isn’t perfect or done just right something terrible will happen or they will be punished.
• Counters and arrangers are obsessed with order and symmetry. They may have superstitions about certain numbers, colors, or arrangements.
• Hoarders fear that something bad will happen if they throw anything away. They compulsively hoard things that they don’t need or use.

Just because you have obsessive thoughts or perform compulsive behaviors does NOT mean that you have obsessive-compulsive disorder. 

Many people have mild obsessions or compulsions that are strange or irrational, but they’re still able to lead their lives without much disruption. But with obsessive-compulsive disorder, these thoughts and behaviors cause tremendous distress, take up a lot of time, and interfere with your daily routine, job, or relationships.

To be continued ……..

Source: Westwood Institute for Anxiety Disorders